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Greetings!
Welcome to the first edition of Be Understood,
the
newsletter of emotionally intelligent communication.
We'll be providing you with a regular roundup of new
thinking and concepts in communication - along with
tips to help you add power to your own
communication.
| EI's A Cool Idea, But What Do I Do? |
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A business leader's guide to building Emotional
Intelligence
You've re-engineered your processes to reduce costs
and eliminate defects. You've automated every activity
you can squeeze onto a computer. Your inventory is
just in time. You've outsourced activities unrelated to
your core business.
You've formed strategic
alliances with your suppliers. You consider customers
partners in success. You've done scenario building and
strategic planning and know where your company is
headed. Your accounting procedures are so squeaky
clean they sparkle.
You've diversified your
investment portfolio, your work force, and even your
board of directors. You're balancing your scorecard.
You've strengthened every link in the value chain. You
may even be "living your brand promise" - though
you're not genuinely sure what that means.
In
short, you've implemented most of the success
formulas recommended in the business literature since
you learned to read.
Then along comes
emotional intelligence. "Interesting idea," you say, "but
what do I do with it?"
Click here to discover how to use EQ at work . . . »
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| The worst brings out the best |
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Bermuda, where I live, is still mopping up
after Hurricane Fabian, a Category 3 (very serious)
hurricane that struck, full-on, in September. It
was loud, and long, and terrifying. Knowing Fabian was
coming and that it would be closer and stronger than
anything we'd ever experienced was sobering.
Bermuda is very well prepared for hurricanes. Our
homes are stone, with stone roofs that are
hard to blow off. They can, and some did. Four
people drowned when their cars were swept off a
causeway, but most damage was to property, not
people.
As power and telephone were restored, house by
house,
people shared their hospitality along with stories of
how they spent the Fabian hours. Lots of family
conversations and candlelight Scrabble. Mid-storm, my
mobile rang - a friend calling to say she'd grown enough
from the experience and
could we please do something else now. One hotel
served a cocktail called the Fabian - with the little
umbrellas blown inside out.
At stressful times, we have to do our best to
keep things light, while staying careful. We're in the
middle of the ocean. There's nowhere to go. We can't
drive out of danger. There's nothing we can do but
make sure nobody's alone, close our shutters, count on
our optimism and resilience, and ride it out. It's a good
workout for our emotional intelligence.
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| Illumination - New Ideas |
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Should recruiting be part of Marketing?
That question was posed by
workforce.com in its August 28th e-zine.
The expert panel, drawn from assorted spots on the org
chart, felt recruiting should remain
part of Human Resources, yet they agreed that HR
folk should understand and use marketing techniques.
One panellist cited research suggesting "applicants rely
on product or services marketing campaigns to form
ideas of what it would be like to work in the firm."
Having worked in both HR and Communication
departments, I could never understand why HR and PR
don't work together more closely.
A company's
brand, which includes what it stands for in the
community, is as
important to employees as it is to customers. Almost
every company I've worked with has "employer of
choice" somewhere in its mission/vision/vallues
statements. And who's going to execute the "brand
promise," so carefully crafted by the marketing team? It
may sound trite and sloganish, but an organization's
strength really is its people.
New definition of marketing From the folks
at MarketingProfs.Com comes the essence of marketing
captured in a few well-chosen words. Marketing
means solving customers' problems profitably. It
puts the emphasis squarely on
customers' needs.
I often work with "reluctant marketers." They're mighty
uncomfortable promoting themselves and their
services. "Marketing feels so, well, not me!" To help
them
discover how to promote their work in an authentic
way, I have them answer these questions.
- Is your service good? - Will people enjoy or
benefit from your service? - Is your price fair?
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Will you do a good job for them?
- Will people know about this service if you don't
tell them? - What's the worst thing that can
happen
if you tell them? - Can you view telling people
about your service as an act of kindness?
The
truth is, selling isn't about you - it's about your
customers. When you focus on what's good for them
and the ways you can help them, then, "Marketing
feels so, well, like
normal human communication!"
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| What's Emotionally Intelligent Communication? |
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For reasons unknown, I watched the season finale
of The Amazing Race. In a TV genre generally
devoid of any intelligence, I was shocked to see one
team make brilliant use of emotional
intelligence.
When there was negotiating to be done (dealing with
airlines, cab drivers or disinterested strangers) one
partner did the talking. His gift for seeing things from
the other person's point of view and his sensitivity to
the context and constraints let him build collaborative
relationships with everyone he met. And he was
unafraid to know and show his own
emotions.
It
was
no
surprise this pair finished first. Being an emotionally
intelligent communicator
gives you a fair advantage.
Emotional Intelligence (EI) is the ability to use emotions
(our own and others') in
deciding how to act. It comes into play in almost every
aspect of our lives.
I discovered the EI concept working on a leadership
project for a Bermuda bank. Competency research led
me
to Richard Boyatzis, which led to Primal
Leadership, a book he co-authored with
Annie McKee and Emotional Intelligence author
Daniel Goleman. Their work supported what I'd
learned interviewing top performers to see
what made them different from Mr. & Ms. Average. I
called it people skill; they called it EI.
At the core of EI is communication that builds
shared understanding and a common foundation for
thought and action. People who do this well may be no
smarter than average, yet they're more successful.
Since then, I've studied EI theory and discussed it with
many others, including members of Susan Dunn's "EQ
Alive" group (link below). The more I learn, the
more firmly I believe communication is at the heart of
success, for organizations and individuals alike.
In Be Understood, I'll be sharing some of my
learning
and thinking on the subject of emotionally intelligent
communication. I invite you to share yours, too.
Read Primal Leadership the book that got me interested in Emotional Intelligence.
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